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One of the most valuable opportunities that
the Vaisnava Family and Youth Conference gave rise to was open and
public dialogue between groups that need to hear from each other.
On the final day of the conference there was a panel discussion
focusing on an issue with a special relevance to Vaisnava families:
What does it mean to be a devotee in a secular world? What are the
mistakes of the past and how can we rectify them?
Rukmini Devi Dasi
Living a transparent life
Sometimes in the media we hear reformed drug addicts or drug dealers
talk about the difficulty they have getting simple, honest jobs
after earning fast, easy, illicit money. I think that there's some
of that syndrome in our ISKCON. Over the years in ISKCON, people
of various abilities and inclinations have been pulled into illicit
means of livelihood, such as living off dishonest collections; for
them, that fast, easy, illicit money becomes like an addiction.
It becomes very difficult to just stop and be humble and accept
an honest means of livelihood.
Consider Srila Prabhupada's living in Ahmedabad as a pharmacist:
Could you conceive of Srila Prabhupada watering down one of his
pharmaceuticals, or cheating someone on the change they get back
after purchasing some medicine? It's inconceivable. Or we can think
of one of my personal role models and idols, Kholaveca Sridhara,
who was very dear to Lord Caitanya. Kholaveca lived in poverty.
He made a meagre living selling banana leaves. From this tiny income,
however, he gave half for the worship of the Ganges. Lord Caitanya
wouldn't eat unless the food was given to Him on the banana leaves
from Kholaveca Sridhara. In fact, the last meal Lord Caitanya took
before taking sannyasa was a preparation of kheer made
from the flower of a squash plant that Kholaveca Sridhara had grown
on his roof. Imagine this type of integrity, then view that against
what we often see today in our society. It is very sad and scary.
It has almost become a cliché that, as his followers, we owe it
to Srila Prabhupada to build 'a house in which the whole world can
live'. So let's look at that house and its founda-tion. Let's look
at the cracks in the foundation and what we have to do build something
that will outlast and outlive us. We talk about first generation
and second generation, but what about the tenth generation, what
about the twentieth generation?
It is important to lead a transparent life: To have no conflict
between the inner and outer life. Then, it would be a pleasant surprise
for a business associate to find out you're a Hare Krsna devotee.
They would ideally find it beneficial to know someone who has a
spiritual practice and is working in the world with integrity.
Spiritual and social ethics
A year or two ago, an article appeared in the Washington Post
that spoke about the best work environments: workplaces where
people can be happy with a boss that they are peaceful working for.
It advised that if we can find a workplace where people have done
their spiritual work, then we can have a peaceful working environment.
It has been pointed out to me that it's easier to do this when
you own a business and create your own work ethics. However, there
are devotees who have come to a point where they realised that their
values were very much in conflict with those of their employees,
and they had to take a crucial step: to find work and employment
somewhere else, even though the new situation offered less prestige
or less money. Sometimes it is a choice between leading a double
life or a spiritual life.
Recently I was interviewed for the business section of USA Today.
The reporter, not interested in anything spiritual at all, was writing
a story about how the attack on Washington on 11 September 2001,
has affected business. A store of ours that is located at the airport
is closed, largely due to the attack. The reporter wanted to know
what are the patterns, what are the trends, what are we feeling,
and how this is hurting us financially. As we talked, I tried to
inject some kind of spiritual perspective, which he wasn't picking
up on at all. He really just wanted to know how much this is costing
us. As he was finishing up his article, he phoned and left a message:
'I just want to know, someone like you who has three stores, were
you hoping to get rich by this? I don't want to put words in your
mouth, but I'm just wondering, what were your intentions?' I phoned
him back and said: 'There's a social trend here that you haven't
spotted, and if you don't spot it you're making a big mistake'.
I told him that I am one of a group of entrepreneurs who is working
in the world to create a new social and spiritual ethic in the workplace.
I told him if he didn't spot that trend, then he is making a big
mistake. I told him I used to live in a spiritual community, and
that I opened this business so that I could be more spiritually
and socially effective in the world by working in the world. At
the end he concluded: 'You know, at a time like this I think we
really need something spiritual'.
Building a community within the community
In Washington, the radio traffic reports always identify the traffic
as moving either east or west of the Mormon temple, but they don't
refer to that building as the Mormon temple, it's just 'The Temple'.
When we moved to Washington, my husband would cringe when he heard
this. We would be in the car, and he would say, 'I'm so envious.
Why can't we build a temple like this? Why don't we have a temple
that is a city landmark?'
In the eight years we've been there we have come to understand
that a temple like that comes naturally out of the hearts of people
who build community. First of all, we have to build community, and
that starts in a microcosmic way. In order to build community, you
really have to go back to the individual and how the individual
is inspired within his or her heart to act in an exemplary, honest
way as a follower of Srila Prabhupada. We have to ask ourselves,
'How is Krsna seeing me, how is the world seeing me, how is Prabhupada
seeing me?' Christians have a saying: 'With Jesus as my co-pilot'.
So we have to think: with Prabhupada as my co-pilot, how am I acting?
Radha Devi Dasi
One foot in each camp
I think my experience when I first came to the Krsna consciousness
movement was somewhat unique at the time, although it is more common
now. I was already a mother and a lawyer when I first started going
to the temple in San Diego. I have never lived in an asrama,
and I didn't go through any training programme, so I'm quite
ignorant about some things. At the same time, I've always been 'in
the world'; I never really left it. I've always had the experience
of trying to balance material life and spiritual life. Part of that
is because I never really wanted to be a Hare Krsna.
I was in law school, and I knew that I needed spiritual guidance.
It was very clear that my life was not going to work without a spiritual
component. I was going to church and I was praying very sincerely
to God, begging Him to show me the way. Someone gave me a copy of
Srila Prabhupada's Bhagavad-gita As It Is; I read the introduction,
and it was the answer to my questions. I was not at all happy when
I found out it was from the Hare Krsnas. I did not want to become
a Hare Krsna. I wasn't going to live the life, it was too weird.
I tried to resolve the conflict by becoming a supporter. I had devotees
come over to my home, and eventually I got to the point where I
realised that I didn't have any other choices. If Krsna had given
me any more, I probably wouldn't be here.
Spiritual life is about relationships
Except for two years, I've always worked outside the Hare Krsna
movement. It's difficult in some ways, but it's very rewarding in
other ways. One interesting observation from this is that we bring
the same problems of perception and ego that exist outside our movement
into our movement. A big part of my struggle in spiritual life is
that I evaluate myself and others. I think they can be counted and
measured. If it looks good on my résumé, if it fills my bank account,
if somebody will write an article in Back To Godhead magazine
about it, then it counts for something. I measure my self-worth
by those things. But these aren't the things that really matter.
They aren't the things that build our spiritual life. I've seen
parallels between behaviours at work and behaviours in my temple
community. They're not that different. We like to think that we
are very different, but I'm not convinced.
One of the growing experiences that my husband and I have been
going through is learning spirituality on a person-to-person basis,
not just counting the value of building temples and doing big projects,
essential as these may be. I've come to understand that not everybody
can do something big, and not everybody is meant to. That's the
message many of us have missed in our spiritual journey. For some
time I felt guilty for not doing something big. However, my husband
and I found that we're more effective when we deal with people one-on-one,
rather than when we engage in big projects. The way my spirituality
is expressed today is through individual relationships.
Our best service together, and our best preaching experience, is
a little programme that we have in our home. Once a week, we invite
friends, neighbours and Vaisnavas to come and chant, discuss spiritual
literature, and take prasadam. It's very powerful because
we connect with people on a one-to-one basis, heart-to-heart. This
gets me talking to people, find-ing out what is going on in their
life, perhaps offering some practical service or advice. It seems
small, but when you see how much devotees appreciate that kind of
help and rapport, you see that this is what it means for us to be
the servant of the servant. I would like it if being the servant
of the servant meant having a big position and a big title, and
a special seat at the Sunday feast, but for me, being the servant
of the servant means doing things like calling someone when they
get sick.
Introducing people to Krsna
Another realisation I've had is that everybody I meet can accept
at least some aspect of Krsna consciousness. Very few people I meet
can accept all of the aspects of Krsna conscious-ness. When I hear
the phrase 'make devotees', it often seems to mean to make people
into the image of what we think they should be. It took me some
time to realise that that is not our job. If I'm telling people
how wrong and bad they are, and how I can fix them, then it's all
about me. However, if I approach people with the idea of introducing
them to an aspect of Krsna consciousness that they can accept, then
we can begin a real relationship. For example, I used to try and
distribute prasadam in the mood of looking for appreciation
for being a devotee giving people this benefit. Very few people
would take the prasadam. However, I find that when I have
some relationship with people, when they see me as a person, even
if it's just the parking attendant or a cashier, then there's no
problem in distributing prasadam. That's one of the ways
that I try to express my spirituality: I bake something, take it
in the car with me, and pass it out to those I meet during the day.
It's not all bad
A benefit of being a part of the wider, nondevotee community is
the different perspectives it offers on practical issues. Sometimes,
because they are so close to me, devotees may not be so objective
in their advice. It can be very useful to go to somebody outside
the devotional community, talk to them and get their feedback. It's
a little clearer sometimes.
My children have also experienced this broader perspective. For
example, my son has always been in the world. Even during the few
years he did go to gurukula he had friends who weren't devotees.
He has always been quite apart from ISKCON. On a recent trip to
the gurukula in Vrndavana, one of the teachers commented
on how much of American culture my son had absorbed and how his
consciousness was affected; he didn't use the word contaminated,
but that was the word I heard. At first I felt defensive and a little
hurt by that, but after a while I came to be happy that he has an
understanding of both cultures. I know he wouldn't be happy living
in a temple asrama. He is not a brahmacari by nature.
He needs experience of both worlds, because he's going to live in
both worlds. He gets along with people well. He can go from community
to community, social group to social group, and he can make friends
with anybody. He's even friends with the red-necks at school and
with racist skinheads. He's friends with everybody because he's
had that multicultural experience.
Anuttama Dasa
Being a devotee in public
Sometimes devotees are apprehensive about appearing in Vaisnava
dress in public. Historically, it is not uncommon for a religion
that is new to a particular social environment to face issues about
social identification within the larger culture. The Salvation Army
is an interesting example. Like us, the Salvation Army were not
respected because they were making loud noises, walking up and down
the street, and getting in peoples' way. For many years they faced
persecution, prejudice and ignorance.
The Salvation Army, although often seen only as a charity, is a
religion that grew out of the Methodist Church in nineteenth-century
England. Its founder was William Booth, formerly a Methodist minister.
Despite Booth's desire to preach to the downtrodden of London, the
Methodist church officers kept sending him to country parishes.
For some years Booth requested a change of assignment, and after
constant refusals, he and his wife started their own movement.
Like us, they largely built their church from street sales of religious
magazines. Now the Salvation Army is the largest religiously affiliated
recipient of private donations in the United States. Last year they
received something like $365 million in donations. This is a religion
that a hundred years ago people didn't like or trust. In modern
terms it would have been described as a cult.
Historically, many organisations get over these troubled beginnings;
but that takes internal action. An old friend of mine told me he
used to feel embarrassed to chant on the streets; people would laugh
at him. But then he thought, 'you may laugh now, but if you want
to get out of material life, you might have to do this too some
day'. That gave him some inner fortitude.
Personally, I always travel with a dhoti, although I don't
always feel comfortable. I feel that if people at least think, 'hey
look, there's a Hare Krsna', then it's nice that they thought of
Krsna. But it would be even better if they said, 'Hey, there's a
Hare Krsna: they're the wonderful people who teach vegetarianism;
they have a fantastic philosophy; they raise wonderful families;
they're clean'.
When I teach communication courses I try to emphasise that when
we take our vows, not only do we vow not to do four things
(take intoxicants, eat meat, engage in illicit sex, or gamble),
but simultaneously, and more importantly, we are vowing to do
four things; we're agreeing be truthful, clean, merciful, and
austere. We may be thinking we are following the regulative principles,
but are we following the positive side of the injunctions as well
as the negative? Are we clean, truthful, honest, personable?
The four things we vow to avoid are the grossest manifestations
of what we consider irreligious activity. Acceptance of those values
is important. People really will appreciate us. I think we all feel
that pain in our hearts. It's a struggle to be proud to be a devotee.
We're proud, and then we're embarrassed.
I'm not embarrassed by our philosophy; I'm embarrassed by misinterpretations
of the philosophy. It is very important for us to sit and discuss
what Prabhupada meant when he said certain things; why certain behaviours
exist; what is the proper way to do things; how we can we treat
each other better. We need to discuss what we can do to move forward
a little, individually or collectively. We have to take what we
have learned and carry it forward.
Margaret Mead once advised that we shouldn't think that a small
group of committed people cannot change the world, because, indeed,
that's the only way the world has ever changed. Sometimes there
is a lot of questioning about when will ISKCON do this and when
will devotee communities do that? The real question is: when will
we find the potential in our own hearts to change ourselves and
others? As Prabhupada showed, it only takes one or two people to
make a difference. Prabhupada didn't wait for others. He tried to
get others involved, but when he didn't get much help, he went on
alone.
People first
Devotees in Russia wrote a declaration. Their main principle was
to take care of people first, that the projects should serve the
people. That's a very important principle. We often assume that
if we have successful projects, people will automatically be helped.
It wasn't that we didn't want to help people; so many of us gave
up everything because we saw that people have all these material
things and they are unhappy. We put aside all our material needs
in order to give people some spiritual answers. However, as Bhaktivinoda
Thakura said, there are two rails to the train track.
Some devotees are trying to get the priorities right, to take care
of people. In communications analysis there is the idea of taking
care of your core community. If your core community is happy, then
everything else will work. If a mother and father are having problems,
the family is going to struggle. If a family is having problems,
the community is going to suffer. If the community is having problems,
the state is going to suffer. We have to start close to home.
In some places we see that there have been lots of changes; for
example, the temple president leaves and then everything becomes
uncertain. What can happen in these situations is that members of
the congregation step forward and take responsibility for holding
the community together. The internal circle of concern, or circle
of influence, is where we can make changes.
Valuing and involving all sections of our community
In the past we faced many problems in caring for and facilitating
our women. There was a period in our history when temple leadership
was almost entirely comprised of celibate men. This led to an aversion
towards associating with women in any sphere.
In the early 1990s, attitudes began to change when gurus with many
female disciples began to recognise that these women could also
be intelligent, mature members of the community who had a lot to
contribute. This change in perception of women quickly trickled
down, but not everywhere, and women were seen less as a threat to
devotional life and more as valued members of our society.
I think that we are now at a similar stage with our congregations.
We now have many members of our congregations who are initiated;
are professionally educated; are highly knowledgeable people in
fields such as management, communications, medicine, social work
or engineering. They are faithful to Prabhupada and the parampara.
So when they start to exhibit some intelligence by noticing that
the philosophy is great but the management is awful, we should be
able to say, 'we're not threatened by that'.
Organisation
We're not afraid of the technology of laptop computers, so why
should we be afraid of the technology, the management skills, that
built the laptop computers? Skills that could help us better manage,
structure and inform our society. We talk about social welfare issues.
So why don't we look at systems that other organisations use - whether
it's the Mormon church or the US government - to make sure there
is a social network for their members? Why is it that certain technologies
are safe and others aren't? We need to learn from experts.
One way in which we can tap into these technologies is by becoming
involved in relevant activities and organisations in the larger
society. We can learn from these groups and bring the lessons to
our own communities, and at the same time we can use our Krsna conscious
principles to influence what is going on in the larger society.
In Christian circles they talk of the parent church and the parallel
church. For example, there is the Catholic Church, and then there
are Catholic welfare services. These welfare services are independent
of the Catholic Church, but they subscribe to the values and teachings
of the Catholic Church and use their Catholic inspiration to go
and make a difference in the world. There are devotees who are very
interested in this model; they see the need for independent, grass-roots
structures that are affiliated with, friendly to, or supportive
of ISKCON but that don't necessarily belong to ISKCON. Children
of Krishna is a somewhat successful example of this. It accomplishes
its goals independently of ISKCON, but it is there to benefit ISKCON
devotees. We don't have to be one organisation; we can be many organisations.
We live in a world full of organisations.
Inspiring new members
An important challenge for all of us, individually and as communities,
is to inspire people when they want to be part of ISKCON. This is
a big challenge to parents, senior devotees, community leaders,
teachers, and certainly for the national and international leaders.
We have to ask: 'Why would someone want to be part of ISKCON?'
For many of us who went through what I call the 'radical conversion
experience', we have the sense that you simply have to become Krsna
conscious because that's what's right. That's not very deep for
a lot of people.
We have to understand what people need, what interests them, and
how we are providing for these needs and interests. It's not that
everybody is going to want or like every aspect of Krsna consciousness,
so we have to find what it is about Krsna consciousness that people
will appreciate, and how we can share that with them. At the Vaisnava
Family and Youth Conference we heard from our young people for the
first time in years. What do young people need to be inspired to
be devotees? We won't get very far saying, 'you should do this because
you should'. That doesn't work in any context. Why should they want
to be devotees? Are we providing them with reasons why they can't
imagine anything but being in ISKCON?
That's the real challenge.
Dhira Govinda Dasa
We've learned that most of our youth are going to interact in the
secular world. There may be a few who are temple devotees their
whole life and who won't need to interact extensively in the secular
world. Practically all of our youth are going to have some vocation
or relationship in the secular world. To ignore this would show
that we're out of touch and don't really care.
Four levels of interaction
Devotees have different levels of interaction with the secular
world.
One such level is represented by the devotee who is out in the
world. His colleagues know that he is a devotee; they see that he
is contributing to society, that he's a good worker, and that he's
a responsible person. The colleagues of such a devotee become favourable:
'Oh, so the Hare Krsnas don't just dance on the street.' Of course,
harinama is at the core of our mission, but many nondevotees
perceive it as being something strange. Prabhupada writes that someone
who is favourable makes advancement. Just by someone becoming favour-able,
their spiritual life moves forward.
Another level of interaction is to be in the world and actively
be Krsna conscious and give that to others. He may discuss the philosphy
with interested people or he may distribute prasadam. At
this level he is not just a devotee setting a responsible example,
he is also giving Krsna consciousness.
Some may want to do more than that. Srila Prabhupada wanted us
to show the relevance of Krsna consciousness, of spiritual life,
to every field. We need to consider the mission. What about pleasing
the great acaryas? What about continuing the mission of the
parampara? I see that as a higher stage: where devotees are
in the world as good members of society and are also showing the
practical relevance of Krsna consciousness in every field, whether
it's business, politics, agriculture, or academia.
Further than that, we have chosen Krsna consciousness for a reason;
we see that it has some special attributes, that it's especially
profound. We want to show that anything good in a particular field
finds its perfection in Krsna consciousness. Of course, we do that
in a way that is in accordance with time and circumstance, and we
present Krsna consciousness in a way that is acceptable and palatable.
Applying a Vedic perspective to Western social sciences
Before I joined the movement in the 1980s, I had a degree in psychology.
In the early 1990s I found myself in academia again. I had been
working in social work and undertook a Mas-ters degree in social
work. Devotees find themselves in academia for various reasons:
some for economic reasons, some for preaching, and some because
that's what they like best.
While studying, I tried to infuse my papers with Krsna consciousness
where possible. I found that the professors were very impressed
with the knowledge that was coming from Prabhupada's books. There
was one assignment that seemed rather uninteresting. We were supposed
to analyse some administrative structure. So I tried to infuse my
paper with some concepts from the Vedic model of the administration
of society, but without mentioning varnasrama, brahmanas,
or ksatriyas. The professor, a very senior man in his
field, was enthusiastic. It was a new and different experience for
him, and he went on to encourage me to undertake PhD study.
The social sciences are generally a very important sector in a
university. Universities are often divided into three main sectors:
the social sciences, the physical sciences and the humanities. We
have devotees establishing Vaisnavism in all those areas.
In practice
My dissertation was on the effects of the maha-mantra on
stress, depression, and the three gunas (the three modes
of nature: goodness, passion, and ignorance).
We devised a personality inventory based on these modes. We used
700 subjects, all nondevotees, as we thought that the devotees may
have been prejudiced in their responses.
In our study on the effects of chanting the maha-mantra,
we did a rigorous experiment using the latest technologies and methodologies
for research design, measurement, meas-urement sampling, and statistical
analysis, helped by trained and qualified assistants. We had three
groups, each of which took a pretest, post-test, and follow-up.
There was a control group, the members of which did not chant anything;
there was a maha-mantra group; and there was a mock-mantra
group. I invented a mock-mantra, but I told the group that it was
a real mantra. The idea was to present the maha-mantra in
an academic framework, using academic methodology and terminology.
Although this is only my experience in this particular sector,
other devotees are also introducing Krsna consciousness into the
academic world. For example, a devotee youth, Ragunatha Dasa, is
developing a very worthy project showing the economic viability
and the economic advantages of each of the four regulative principles.
Devotees talk about this during Bhagavatam class, but to
convince the scholarly world of these ideas and to introduce these
ideas to the wider society, which is enamoured by empiricism, we
need to do research. Most Vaisnava practices lend themselves to
empirical research. Krsna says that the truths revealed in the Vedic
scriptures can be directly experienced; these truths are empirically
verifiable. Dhira Dasi is considering writing her dissertation on
the empirical effects of prasadam. The effects of prasadam
could be studied empirically by organising a prasadam group
and a vegetarian control group, and then measuring various effects.
We don't chant Hare Krsna or do bhakti-yoga to decrease
our stress and depression; these are side benefits. But people are
really interested in decreasing their stress and depression and
having less marital conflict; all of these effects are dependent
variables, and through empirical studies we can show the relevance
of the Vaisnava practices to the world. The philosophy of Krsna
consciousness offers a framework by which we can understand sociological
and psychological phenomena. There's a lot of work for devotees
- not just living in the secular world to earn a livelihood but
to push forward Prabhupada's movement in every field.
Citralekha Devi Dasi
Raising devotee children in the wider society
When I joined ISKCON, it was 'give up everything and become a Hare
Krsna devotee'. Srila Prabhupada gave my husband, Upendra Dasa,
and I some gifts in his direction to us. He was cultivating us to
go travelling, preaching and opening centres. He gave us the opportunity
to do things independently and to have firm faith in the philosophy.
Because we were often sent to remote places by ourselves, we learned
to internalise our dependence on Krsna. Once we mentioned this to
him: 'But Prabhupada, there aren't any devotees there'. He said
all you need is two. So that was our training in Krsna consciousness.
Throughout the years, we always had that independence. Some devotees
might have classified us as 'fringies'. We didn't always live in
a temple, or if we did, it was in India, where we were rather autonomous
anyway.
In the 1980s, when the financial bases of the temples fell out,
many devotees had to start working to support their families. My
husband, as much of a Prabhupada lover and fol-lower that he was,
was no longer involved in Krsna consciousness directly, and, although
he held Prabhupada dear to his heart, being a supportive father
and husband wasn't one of his strong points. I was left to raise
my children on my own. During this time it took a lot of heavy decision
making and faith in order to push on.
I knew my children would have to work in the wider society and
that they would need to know how to relate to all kinds of people,
so they started in public school. This was traumatic for them, and
it was traumatic for me to find work because I didn't have a degree
or any work experience in the outside world. I had never written
a résumé or had a job interview. I was starting from nothing at
the age of forty with three dependent children.
Also, after my children came back from boarding gurukula,
we didn't have a very strong relationship with each other. My motherly
instincts kicked in right away: I had to focus on their relationships;
take care of their needs; make sure they got an education, and that
they got Prabhupada. If that was all I could do, then that was my
service. It was difficult, and sometimes I felt I wasn't able to
do all of the spiritual practices that I wanted to. I had to have
faith that the instructions that I had given my children when they
were young would help carry them through some of the difficulties
that we were going to encounter along the way. I felt very strong.
I taught gurukula for eleven years and was one of the teachers
who was always pushing for a regular, outside curriculum. I felt
our gurukula curriculum was insufficient, that it wasn't
really giving the children the education they needed. It was a little
radical of me at the time, but I felt that if we had faith in our
philosophy and we gave our children that philosophy, then it didn't
matter so much what textbooks we used; the philosophy would prevail.
So, with those lessons in mind, we proceeded. There were some very
difficult years. My son had a lot of resentment because of his difficulties
in gurukula. As the only parent present, he blamed me for
all of that. We struggled through many years, but we hung in there.
I resolved that my children weren't going to have the philosophy
shoved down their throat. I saw many youths leaving and not wanting
to be a part of ISKCON, so I resolved that I wasn't going to force
anything upon my children. If they wanted to know, I was willing
to tell them. I gave them all the direction I could based on the
philosophy, and if they wanted to, they could remember it and keep
it with them.
Now we have come full circle. My son appreciates a lot of the philosophy,
and we've resolved our relationship. He holds Prabhupada and his
early training years dear to his heart. I don't know whether he
actively practices, and I don't ask, but I do know that when I go
to his apartment, I see his japa beads there and a Bhagavad-gita,
and he wears his neck beads. If that's what he can do, then that's
great. As for my older daughter, her heart is there, even if her
practices aren't the best. My younger daughter is still striving,
so we're in that area where she doesn't know where she's at. She
plops back and forth, and if her friends think Hare Krsnas are weird,
then she doesn't want to have anything to do with devotees. We're
still working through that.
During all these changes, I came to a point at which I felt like
I was drying up inside. I needed something to give me some spirituality,
some strength. So I started going back to school. I needed an outlet
for spiritual exchange, and that really provided it. Interestingly,
the first instructor I had at Penn State, my world religions professor,
had practised Tibetan Buddhism for twenty years. We had many lengthy
discussions. I invited him to the temple, and his first response
was: 'I don't want you to convert me'. I was constantly battling
that stereotype that we were just out to convert. All of my papers
were infused with Krsna conscious philosophy. It was really my outlet
for giving the philosophy to others without men-tioning Krsna, without
mentioning varnasrama-dharma, or without any of the devotee
clichés. I was able to give our outlook on the world, and my instructors
loved it. It was very satisfying, and it really opened up my life
in many ways. It made me realise very quickly that everything I
knew had been taught to me by Srila Prabhupada. That was my world
view, and this was how I was able to give something back to Prabhupada:
by offering others a little of what I had learned from him.
Questions
Question from Anuttama Dasa:
How do we take Srila Prabhupada's statements, some of which appear
to be quite negative, about interacting with the world? Prabhupada
talks of people 'working hard like dogs, hogs, camels, and asses'.
He sometimes describes people who get degrees as being like stray
dogs looking for a master. We hear nondevotee schools described
as slaughterhouses. We hear Prabhupada talk about the danger of
associating with nondevotees. Many people get these negative impressions
from Prabhupada's books. How do we reconcile that with the idea
of devotees getting degrees, looking for work, and holding regular
jobs? How do we balance that with being Krsna conscious? Have we
given up? Have we sold out?
Response
Dhira Govinda Dasa:
We can look at our place in the world as a sankirtana spot,
somewhere to talk about Krsna consciousness. I'm writing an academic
paper, so this is sankirtana. Yes, we do have these state-ments
in Prabhupada's books about dogs, hogs, camels and asses, but Prabhupada
also said that in Vaisnava philosophy everything is Krsna's energy.
If we reject Krsna's energy, then we are impersonalists. The question
then is: if everything is Krsna's energy, how can I use it in Krsna's
service? How can I use Krsna's energy in such a way that Prabhupada
and the acaryas will be pleased. If I'm unable to use it
properly, then I probably shouldn't be in that situation. But I
see that Krsna put me in this particular position for a reason.
Krsna put me in university for a reason. Krsna has me writing these
papers for a reason. How can I take something that's material and
'Krsna-ise' it, spiritualise it, and thus make the world a more
spiritual place?
The statements you mentioned are a warning: whenever we are in
contact with the material energy, which is essentially all the time,
we need to be on guard. We need to be very vigilant about our own
Krsna consciousness, but we also need to remember Prabhupada's example.
Prabhupada didn't stay in Vaisnava Vrndavana; he created Krsna conscious
association.
There are levels of association with the world. The first level
is to be in a situation and to show by behaviour that devotees are
good people. The next level is to share some spiritual knowledge,
to make Krsna consciousness relevant, and to openly practice aspects
of Krsna consciousness. If I'm out there and I'm not showing how
Krsna consciousness is relevant, then I'm probably going to be influenced
by the situation rather than exerting influence.
Prabhupada gives different statements to warn us, but also statements
to encourage us. Everything is Krsna's energy. How can I 'Krsna-ise'
this office?
Comment
Braja Bihari Dasa:
We have to be very careful because Prabhupada is quoted very selectively
in our society. We have to step back and look at the gamut of Prabhupada's
teachings on a certain topic and try to understand them on a deeper
level, rather than just quoting something off the cuff. To some
extent, in our society, there has been a kind of railroading, based
on selective quotes, to think that this is Prabhupada on a certain
topic. Often, a more mature, detached, and broad-based research
would deepen our understanding and bring us beyond superficial views.
What is the context in which Prabhupada says something? Who is it
being said to? How does one statement compare with other statements
on the same subject? We need to be much more levelheaded and look
a little more deeply into the teachings to present a better balance.
Question from audience:
How do we know that it's Krsna, not maya (illusion) or our
own material desires that puts us in a situation?
Response
Dhira Govinda Dasa:
Well, maybe it is my material desire, my karma, or maya,
that puts me in a particular situation, but wherever we are, the
question is, how can I act in a way that's pleasing to Prabhupada?
How can I be Krsna conscious here? Maybe I'm not here for all the
right reasons, but for whatever reasons I am here, Krsna wants me
to be spiritual.
Question from Pancaratra Dasa:
Do we face an issue of entitlement in our society, based on past
service? Do some of us feel that because we have given so much to
the Krsna consciousness movement, we are entitled to earn a living
without regard to normal ethical standards?
Response
Rukmini Devi Dasi:
Yes, and then we passed that ethic on to the next generation of
devotees and that's become our society's norm and ethic. That is
a cause for tears.
Our children are imbibing that kind of behaviour by osmosis. They
grow up thinking this is normal. There is a feeling that 'I should
be entitled to receive something that is beyond my means' or 'I
can do anything to feed my family. They are, after all, devotees,
so it is transcendental'. With these attitudes we can tell any lie
to make a living. We can say we are getting kids off drugs or feeding
the poor. This lack of integrity creates a subculture that is very
scary.
Our children often see this instead of an honest and humble endeavour
to work at an honest job.
Question from audience
How does our behaviour affect the way the public sees us?
Response
Rukmini Devi Dasi:
Recently, I read a story in Newsweek about the Mormons.
The article starts off: 'What do you think of when you think of
a Mormon?' What do you think of? You think of honest, clean-cut
kids in pairs going out across the world preaching their religion.
It's a question we have to ask of ourselves: 'What do you think
of when you think of a Hare Krsna?' Unfortunately, I find the answers
to this question are scary, even terrifying. We had the opportunity
to study with Srila Prabhupada and read his books, and somehow,
despite all that, we have given the public a very negative perception
of our movement. We have to be able to change that now. We can't
wait another ten, twenty, or fifty years.
I recently spoke with a devotee who is very brahminically inclined;
a very scholarly, fine devotee, for whom I have a lot of respect.
He has been selling hats for years, and he is miserable. As we were
talking, I was describing the Bhaktivedanta College, which is planned
for Radhadesh, and suggested he look at it as a place to go and
study or teach or somehow be involved with. He went to the Communications
Seminars there in July 2001, and that opened up whole new vistas
for him. It gave him hope that that maybe there is some way for
him to work according to his natural tendencies.
Of course, it's not that we all have to be involved in academic
life, but we do all have to look at our own propensities, and the
reputation of Prabhupada's mission.
Comment by Radha Devi Dasi:
This issue affects the type of new people coming to join our movement.
When people look at our movement and think about joining, they generally
don't sit down and literally look at the philosophy. Very few people
will look at the philosophy and think they would like to change
their lives to fit the philosophy. They do look at the people in
the movement and question if they see themselves doing that. If
all they see is brahmacaris, then we will attract a lot of
people who want to be brahmacaris. If there is a strong subculture
of people who take and sell drugs, then we will attract more of
that type of person. If they see devotees who can work in the world,
then we will attract that kind of person.
Comment by Anuttama Dasa:
One issue that we as a society have to address is to define what
is acceptable behaviour and what is unacceptable behaviour. It's
true, there are many stories of famous and respectable people who
went through some very difficult times and who then turned to Christianity
later in life and gave up their erring ways. But as a society, what
is our social norm? There are many questions that come from this.
Is it okay in an emergency to break ethical rules? Do we accept
some of the ethical principles that are there in the larger society?
Or are we above that? Are we able to set our own standards?
It seems in our society the real unacceptable behaviour is to work
hard for eight hours a day, six days a week, with a humble income.
It is seen as better to do something that isn't entirely straightforward
for four hours a day and make more money. It is a problem that has
seeped into our society and needs to be weeded out. In Bhagavad-gita,
Prabhupada says that it is better to be an honest street sweeper
than a charlatan meditator. Prabhupada also says that if one has
a very menial job but is meditating on the fact that the fruit of
his work is for Krsna, then that can be pure devotional service.
This is a critically important point. What is our ethic? We have
to balance our needs to maintain our bodies and our families, but
also we have to try and be Krsna conscious.
There is the example of Kholaveca Sridhara that Rukmini mentioned
from Caitanya-caritamrta. He was earning a pauper's income
from selling banana leaves, yet he is glorified in the sastra.
He would rather live humbly from banana leaf sales than compromise
his morals. We need to build a social network and a support network
in which we help our fellow Vaisnavas make an honest living. We've
been trying to dosomething like this with our youth. There may be
limited resources, but at least we have to understand that we need
to do something there. We need to build that support network and
at the same time define and make clear what constitutes unacceptable
behaviour.
We have to develop an unbreakable ethic of being honest and truthful
in representing Prabhupada's movement to society, even if that means
we have to work a little harder or a little below our means. If
we don't do this now, these unacceptable behaviours get passed on
to the next generation and become very difficult to weed out.
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